In the UK today we are suffering from a CRISIS OF KNOWLEDGE.  So many organisations talk about child abuse and so few actually understand why we have such a problem in our country and few search for a way to reduce the incidence of abuse.  Society is confused about the different messages coming out from Government and its supporting agencies.  

ENOUGH ABUSE UK is quite different as we do not deliver the Government's Safeguarding program which targets processes and procedures.   Our programs are designed to PREVENT and MINIMISE harm by focusing on the BEHAVIOURS of those at RISK and those who are the RISK.

We believe PARENT POWER is the key resource in attacking the issues of child abuse.  Enabling parents and those with a duty of care to understand the behaviours of both the ABUSER and the ABUSED means inappropriate situations can be arrested and dealt with before abuse takes place.  ABUSERS can be identified at a young age by recognising and understanding their negative attitudes and behaviours which are early indicators of an abusive life.

We educate all those with a duty of care of children, enabling them to identify children at risk and assist them to become RESILIENT TO ABUSE.  We also support those in urgent need of managing the damaging impacts of abuse.

Through interactive drama and visual aids our program demonstrates GROOMING BEHAVIOURS showing how an ABUSER thinks and behaves.  By understanding an ABUSER one can identify a child at risk and act accordingly to PREVENT ABUSE thereby protecting the young developing brain and avoiding mental health issues later in life.



ENOUGH ABUSE UK...what do people ABOUT our program?


I am writing to say a big thank you for taking the time to give your recent talk to us all at the school. I was so impressed by you and your lecture that I wanted to send you this mail which I would be entirely happy for you to use as a reference in either its original format, abridged or paraphrased, as you see fit.

I recently attended a seminar held at my daughters’ school where Marilyn Hawes from Enough Abuse UK lectured us on child safety. The seminar was in the evening, from 7 pm until 9.30 pm and on my way there I was apprehensive. The very thought of this subject is enough to turn most parents’ stomachs and a 2 and a half hour evening lecture sat on hard, uncomfortable seats, wasn’t appealing but, I felt, important.

There were over 100 parents in attendance that evening and we are an impatient and restless bunch at the best of times, even when watching our own children’s school plays. Marilyn had said before she began that we should feel free to stretch our legs or take toilet breaks without asking, but she had us totally gripped from the very first sentence and not one person stirred for what ended up being closer to 3 hours.

Marilyn was amazing and addressed this subject with an honesty and gentleness that touched everyone. She left us all in no doubt of the danger out there but also left us feeling better equipped to protect our children, after all, if you don’t know what the danger is, how can you defend against it.

I am now convinced that this should be a compulsory seminar for all schools and all parents but, until that happens, I would urge you to do whatever you can to get to listen to Marilyn speak. After all, in the battle to protect your children, it’s far better to have the weapons but never use them than to be defenceless.

Ian Metcalf
Birchin Court, 20 Birchin Lane, London, EC3V 9DU Tel; 020 7377 8533
Haymarket Associates is an Independent Financial Adviser

"The delivery and content on the topic of Grooming Awareness was outstanding. Staff, governors and parents were shocked, yet so grateful that a charity has the initiative and expertise to deliver the facts and educate us how to recognise and prevent the difficult subject of grooming."

JOHN ABBOT, Deputy Head of Priory Prep School

"I had the privilege to sponsor an Enough Abuse Conference in Manchester. The passion and energy generated by the conference was most inspiring. It is very easy to forget, when, as a lawyer, one is dealing with legal cases, why we are dealing with this subject matter and the needs of the victims.

Attendance at this conference served to remind us all of the compassionate need that victims have for justice. The array of speakers, which Marilyn Hawes managed to assemble was most diverse and capable. Their talks were interesting and absorbing. Without exception everyone came away wiser and more knowledgeable as a result.

The attendees were most enthusiastic and interactive in a way which enabled much valuable networking to take place. I would definitely recommend anyone to sponsor such an event, not only because of its beneficial effect from a marketing perspective, but also because the conference was so interesting, and absorbing"

Peter Garsden Principle Solicitor Abuse Quality Solicitors Abney Garsden

Marilyn’s training on Recognising Grooming Behaviours to Prevent Sexual Child Abuse exceeded our expectations and it was one of the best Insets we have had at our school. It is remarkably different from any other safeguarding training in terms of its preventative nature. Marilyn’s training is strongly focused on prevention, minimizing abuse and blending various approaches to convey the message of child sexual abuse and bullying. A mixture of role plays, slides, stories, statistics, direct communication with the audience, various props and unforgettable role plays with a teddy bear ensured that the message was understood and stayed strongly embedded in our minds.    Staff left the INSET equipped with newly-learned skills how to recognise grooming behaviours and bullying and felt enlightened and much more aware of grooming and abusive behaviours.  More importantly, Marilyn’s talk was highly effective in the way that it triggered a serious of responses both professional and personal and numerous expressions of gratitude.    

Marilyn is a truly outstanding speaker who managed to keep all staff, governors, teaching, boarding and support staff, fully engaged and attentive for three hours.  She ensured that the seriousness of the topic as well as emotional, revealing content was timely interrupted with light-hearted breaks in which Marilyn demonstrated a great sense of humour.  She is also very pragmatic in her approach and her arguments are always backed up with evidence and up-to-date statistics adding to the argument that bullying and child abuse are real and widely spread issues with long-lasting affect. However, Marilyn is very clear in her message that prevention and early intervention can make a very real difference to the future of a victim.  

Elena Hesse, PaedDr., MSc, Assoc. C.I.P.D
Head of Pastoral Care & Head of Boarding
Deputy Child Protection Liaison Officer



Hear Me

"Child abuse must not be a life sentence for the abused."

HearMe is a free to use, online service for the reporting concerns about child abuse. 

Enjoy access to child abuse professionals who advise you directly on how to stop abuse and limit its impact.



"Enough Abuse UK" means support from our team of consultants with free access to our extensive library of online and printed resources.

Our aim is to ensure you all have access to the best knowledge and services on how to protect children in your care.

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"Prevention is Key"
Only by society being educated on grooming can we begin to reduce the incidence of child abuse.

Society can change the incidence of abuse by taking control.  Our children are our responsibility not the Government's, Police, NHS etc.

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We educate all those with a duty of care of children from children to front line child abuse professionals.

Join us at one of our conferences, workshops or arrange in house training.

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How big is the problem?

1 in 5 children have reported serious abuse be it physical, sexual, emotional or neglect at some point in their early life.  This figure is based upon reported abuse so the overall figure will be greater than this.  Only 1 in 9 children who need support receive it.

NSPCC April 2013

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